Posted by Bobbie | Posted in Excercise, Personal Trainer, stress | Posted on Fri February 05, 2010
I’m having a much better day today. I worked from home all day long and stayed away from our downtown office. I haven’t even checked phone messages. I just don’t want to. I’m going to call today a “personal development/mental health day”.
One thing that really made my day was the fact that I got the political book that was on my wish list. We have a wonderful, small town bookstore than can special order anything and I always try to buy local when I can. It’s important to our economy and to the businesses in my town (including my own).
Imagine my immense joy that the owner of the bookstore was able to pull some strings and get the LAST copy available of The Politician by Andrew Young from a town an hour away. Apparently it’s a hot book right now, and NO ONE has it. Keep in mind I live in the freaking boonies of northern Michigan.
I’m such a dork, I know. But I’m easy to please. Just buy me a
good novel. With lots of political trash. LOL
I’ve been thinking a lot in regards to the whole gym situation from Wednesday night when my trainer walked out during one of my training sessions because he was having a bad day of my bad attitude the stars not being in alignment.
The thing to keep in mind here is that I love training with Dean, and I think that’s evident in a lot of my posts and I think it’s fair to say he feels the same way about training me. I think Dean is fantastic at what he does and is a great motivator, and above all I like the guy.
Over the last three months, I’ve become good friends with him. I bounce a lot of business ideas off of him, share personal things with him too, so it’s a little more than just a trainer/client relationship. I actually think of him as kind of a big brother – but a good friend above all. Like any friendship, we get along great most days. But as a trainer he has to deal with me at my worst most of the time. Complaining, whining, tired, looking like shit and haggard, unshowered, etc.
Maybe that’s one of the reasons why everything got to me so much and why I took it so personal. I still don’t agree with what happened Wednesday night and how it played out, but it’s over with and it’s in the past. I’ve told him how I felt it could have been handled differently, and he’s told me how he feels about my recent lack of effort in my training sessions, and that he thinks I could be giving it more.
I value our friendship and his expertise in what he does. In keeping all of this in mind during my re-evaluation, I’ve decided to bring down my training sessions from three days a week to one day a week.
In the hopes of keeping myself focused and looking forward to our session, I picked a day that would be the least busy at the gym because I really struggle when the place is packed and we’re training with a bunch of people. (It makes my head spin when it’s busy.)
I’m also going to hit up my P90X too, as I really, really want to do that. I’m intrigued by the challenge and can’t wait to get started. I’m also interested in Sean T’s Insanity. Have you seen that program advertised? It looks, well, ridiculously insane!
I truly believe that Dean has prepared me to be successful and I know a lot of the exercises and movements now, so I think this is going to be a good thing. I always have the option of upping the number of workouts at anytime and I know that he will be down with that – I just need to say the word.
I think this will be a good test for me – to see if I can do this on my own most of the week, and then I’ll get the best of him on my training day. Because the whole goal is for me to get healthy and fit. Plus, I want to be able to do this on my own, and in the best way possible for ME.
Enough of that crap, but I wanted to tie that up since a lot of you were wanting an update. :)
I hope you all have a wonderful weekend. Do you have any plans? Inquiring minds want to know! :)







Fri February 05, 2010 at 5:19 PM
AFG, I think you have to follow your heart & do what you think is best for you right now. It sounds like you have a great plan & why not try it. Hey, if it does not work, you can just change things up again! Right! I can’t wait to hear about your P90X workouts. I have heard of the Insanity ones but have not had time to really check it out thoroughly. In fact, been a bit crazy so I have missed a couple of your posts.. and others! Sorry about you being overwhelmed before your bday! When is that?
OK< enjoy that book! I was such a fan of John Edwards before all this crap came out. So disappointed in him!!!!! Really sad story & with his wife having cancer & all the other stuff that has gone on.
Politicians…. they all have some bogus in them. Some more than others! I could never be in that field! I am too honest!
Jody – Fit at 52´s last blog ..Cookie Monster; Winter Blues; Pains that May Point to Cancer
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Anonymous Fat Girl Reply:
February 5th, 2010 at 8:17 pm
Don’t be sorry Jody! :)
The book is good so far. I’ve just started it and want to keep on reading! A definite page turner (IMO). Glad I got it!
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Anonymous Fat Girl Reply:
February 6th, 2010 at 9:58 am
Oh, forgot to answer your question, my birthday is Tuesday the 9th.
And I also was a supporter of Edwards so I’m a bit disappointed too. :(
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Fri February 05, 2010 at 6:12 PM
Good. For. You.
I’m proud of you that you are still going, not that you need me to be proud of you, but you got back on that horse. You can always get off that horse at another time when you are ready, but the important thing is, you got on.
Today is such a stay-in-bed-and-read day: grey and rainy and cold. Hope you have a chance to read your new book.
Gina Fit by 41 Maybe 42´s last blog ..This Sugar Is Healthy For You and Makes You Wanna Dance
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Anonymous Fat Girl Reply:
February 5th, 2010 at 8:17 pm
The book is so far so good! Thanks for the support Gina! :)
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Fri February 05, 2010 at 7:56 PM
Cutting back to one day sounds like a good alternative to leaving the gym all together. Maybe the brother/sister type relationship was making it too easy to treat each other the way we sometimes treat family-I know I’d say things to my brothers that I wouldn’t say to a co-worker or client.
If you weren’t looking forward to going to the gym, something had to change. The variety of workouts might re-energize your efforts too. Maybe in the long run this fiasco will turn out to be a good thing.
Have a great weekend-are you doing any pre-birthday celebrating?
karen@fitnessjourney´s last blog ..Are You Looking For a Personal Trainer?
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Anonymous Fat Girl Reply:
February 5th, 2010 at 8:19 pm
I’m still going to be hitting the gym daily with John and helping him when he has questions on some of the exercises, so I’ll be there, but only train with Dean one day a week.
Got a Super Bowl part on Sunday. I’m really looking forward to that. We NEVER do anything! Then I’m taking my birthday off of work. John is going to spend the day with me while the kids are at school so we don’t have to get a sitter. I’m really looking forward to it!
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Sat February 06, 2010 at 12:07 AM
Sounds like you are moving forward in a positive way–that’s great!
Jen´s last blog ..Am I Starting?
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Anonymous Fat Girl Reply:
February 6th, 2010 at 9:15 am
I’m all about positive. I just hate it when I have so many ups then it’s a definite crash shortly after. I gotta work on that. :)
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Sat February 06, 2010 at 7:37 AM
glad you have a plan and are feeling more chipper! hope you enjoyed your day.
liz´s last blog ..Planning Ahead
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Anonymous Fat Girl Reply:
February 6th, 2010 at 9:15 am
Yep, it was a pretty good day and I got lots of good reading time in. I’m a happy camper. :)
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Sat February 06, 2010 at 12:30 PM
You can absolutely do this! No doubt in my mind that Dean will be there to help you if you need!
~Kellie
The Chubby Girl Diaries´s last blog ..Interesting week
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Anonymous Fat Girl Reply:
February 6th, 2010 at 1:03 pm
I have no doubt either. I just have to remember it’s my choice on who I left help or hinder me. You know what I mean? :)
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Sat February 06, 2010 at 12:40 PM
Yep, this is ALL about you! You’re on the right track!
(count me among the ex-Edwards followers, too :( )
Cammy@TippyToeDiet´s last blog ..The Week That Was
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Anonymous Fat Girl Reply:
February 6th, 2010 at 1:04 pm
The guy really had a lot of potential… So sad to see it all flushed down the drain.
I don’t want to be one of those people that someone says the above about. You know, “AFG. She had so much potential on this journey. Then she got pissed and flushed it all down the drain.” LOL
I so won’t be one of those people.
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Sat February 06, 2010 at 4:59 PM
Potential is useless if ya don’t execute. Remember Darryl Strawberry? Potential baseball Triple Crown winner. How about Mike Tyson? Hell, the sports field is littered with the remains of potential champions who got too rich, and surrounded themselves with sycophants who refused to tell them the truth (because they were too interested in the money they could make).
Edwards turned out to be a slimeball, but I can’t say I’m surprised by that. I think most politicians are slimeballs.
And you, my dear young lady, are not going to be “one of those people.” I’d bet on it.
Hot Mother´s last blog ..Happiness is a big pot of coffee
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